As humans, we are indeed collectors of junk. We collect things. We hold onto things.
Too many things.
We do this with emotional baggage (junk) as well as with physical things (junk) – as anyone who’s ever packed their home in preparation of a move can attest, we all accumulate a LOT of junk.
With the new year directly around the corner and with a nudge from a post by Regena Garrepy called “Clean, Clear & Complete”, I decided that it was time to take action and get rid of some “junk”.
Although a few rooms in my life – ahem, I mean my house – could use it, I decided my master closet was the best place to start.
To hold on, or to let go?
Seems like there is always a battle – at least mentally – between the two. We tend to rationalize keeping….. well, EVERYTHING! That’s how it got so bad in the first place!
–This doesn’t quite fit, but it will as soon as I lose a few pounds…
–This just needs a button sewed on…
-I would wear this again if I had a fancy place to wear it…
–This, just needs a pair of pants/shoes/belt/whatever that match it…
And so on and so forth.
I read a great article one time about a way to clean out the closet. It said: “Throw everything on the bed and ONLY put things back in the closet that you LOVE.”
Only. Things. You. Love.
I love it. It’s genius – and as I was going through the process, I had to keep defaulting back to that genius statement because I kept sliding down the path of rationalizing reasons to keep things.
Therein lies the beauty and simplicity of the theory.
It can’t be argued with.
It can’t be rationalized away.
It rally doesn’t matter if you can wear it again…one day…..if you lost some weight…..if you fixed the button….if, if if….
The real question is:
DO YOU ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT?
Yes or no. The answer becomes really clear, really fast.
And so it went. I gave away 6 huge bags of clothes – and it felt amazing. I highly recommend it. Especially now to start off the new year with a different kind of feeling.
Now the real power of this “do you love it” question comes if we also apply it to our daily choices.
Should I go to this place?
Should I talk to this person?
Should I take this job?
Should I deal with/ partner with/ date that person?
Should I be talking about this subject?
Maybe the answers to all the above are also very clear….
Only if you love it.
And if there’s something you don’t love, but HAVE to do, then find a way to love it by changing the way you think about it.
As Annie Gottlier put it: “It’s so hard when I have to, and so easy when I want to.”
We are so scared to let go of certain things in our lives. Even things that aren’t serving us. But letting go and getting rid of the wrong/old/non-serving things in our lives makes room for the right things to show up.
How about emotionally?
What “junk” are you holding on to that is keeping your “emotional closet” cluttered? The junk that’s keeping new and exciting things from coming your way?
It’s a block….and you can let it go. You can choose to clean it out. Throw it away. Start fresh with new thoughts. Thoughts and beliefs that excite you. Ones that look really great on you. Ones that make you smile. Ones that help you to enjoy life and see how many wonderful things there are to experience – and that every experience can be a wonderful thing.
So grab all of those old beliefs about yourself/life/money/love/relationships/success/self-worth and throw them all on the bed.
Enter this new year with only the ones you love.
See you on the other side. I’ll be the one smiling at you.